Purify An Unholy Marriage?
Unfortunately we live in a society that doesnít hold the bond of marriage as a lifetime commitment. Instead, society encourages people to divorce because it is easier and less painful than trying to workout the relationship. Thinking like this has caused the divorce rate to skyrocket and has influenced people to reinterpret what the Word of God teaches on marriage, divorce, and remarriage. It is easy for people to accept the will of God until it directly affects them or one of their loved ones. For example, letís say that a motherís daughter gets married and then gets divorced because they could not get along. The daughter is very young and has her whole life in front of her. She wants to get married again and have kids, but she cannot unless she wants to turn from God and live in adultery. There are only two ways a person can be remarried and be right with God and they are found in following verses.
Matthew 19:9†† "And I say to you, whoever divorces his
wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits
adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
Romans 7:2 For
the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he
lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her
husband.† 3 So then if, while
her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress;
but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no
adulteress, though she has married another man.
Even though the Word of God clearly states that a person can only remarry
if their mate has cheated on them or they have died. The mother or daughter in
our scenario will be inclined to invent a new way around the will of God to
satisfy their own wants and desires. This is exactly what many of our brothers
and sisters in Christ are doing in the church today. I have observed many
creative ways people have tried to twist these easy to understand passages in
the attempt to justify an unlawful remarriage.
Some think that they can purify an unholy marriage by being baptized. They come to this conclusion because they think baptism will wash away all their sins and make them a new creature allowing them to start over anew. Is this true? Will baptism purify an unholy marriage?
The key to answering this
question is found in the basic principles of becoming a Christian. We must hear
the Word (Rom.
Repentance is the key to
answering our question. True repentance is not merely feeling sorry for what
you have done, instead it involves changing what you are currently doing and you
must conform to the will of God (2 Cor.
Jesus and Paul make it clear that
if a person remarries for any other reason than sexual immorality or the death
of your mate, you are in an adulterous relationship (Mat. 19:9;
†Isaiah 55:8 "
For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,"
says the LORD.† 9 "For as
the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways
higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts.
Anytime we try to change the Word of God to fit our wishes, itís because we
have a lack of faith and trust in God. We would all do good to take the advice
of the following verses:
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD
with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;† 6 In all your ways
acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.† 7 Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the LORD and depart from evil.† 8
It will be health to your flesh, And strength to your
Marriage is wonderful institution given by God (Gen.
2:18-24) and He does not want it to be broken (Mat. 19:6). It is a lifetime
In conclusion, no matter how many creative ways you try to get around the issue of marriage, divorce, and remarriage, you cannot change what the Word of God clearly states. Unless you mate cheats on you or dies, you have no right to remarry unless you choose to live your life in adultery and are willing to face the consequences (Gal. 5:19-21; 1 Cor. 6:9-11).
Joshua 24:15 "And if it
seems evil to you to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves this day whom you
will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other
side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as
for me and my house, we will serve the LORD."